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Stupid question by Tenshi-no-Hikari Stupid question by Tenshi-no-Hikari
Hey guys, I'm not dead, lol! Here's a little comic as a sign of life xDDD
Sorry for not submitting for so long but my new full time job is very exhausting '''OTL Still need time to adapt to it x___x

But I promise I'll try to be more active from now on, still have so many ideas that need to be drawn! :D


As for the comic itself, here's a little description:
I hate that attitude some people have: they have the urge to put you into a category, either you're straight or gay/lesbian or bi, because anything else 'does not exist'. It's funny how people want to negate something just because they don't understand it. Besides, not having a girlfriend/boyfriend does not mean you're searching for one, even if you're not asexual. xD
PS: I'm talking about people who really are asexual, not kids who pretend to be one just because it's "trendy" or whatever. xD
Oh and 1% of the population are asexual, if you think about that, that's a lot of people!

EDIT: I know that asexual must not automatically mean aromantic and that asexual people can still want a romantic relationship. But let's face reality: how big is the chance to find a partner who will tolerate this (or who's also asexual)?...
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Petalsandglitter Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
omg why is this so true Face Palm emote 
dragonbat1 Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm so confused by everyone in the comments below. Isn't asexuality just not having s*x with a partner? You can have a boyfriend, girlfriend, or what ever suites your fancy....
DemyxXIII Featured By Owner Jun 28, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
My life in a Nutshell 
Orangepelz Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I've been in this situation too many times xD
Rzavio Featured By Owner Dec 22, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
Two Girls one is happy and 1 is angry the angry one want boyfriend and happy one think of a boyfriend
Ada-Erika Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2015
Yeah, at least I a have the feeling like "Who would wanna be in a relationship with me? That's just crazy I don't think anyone can tolerate me enough xD " And I don't think it in a sad way I mean it would be awesome to have someone to cuddle and kiss and do some romantic stuff, but when I think about it I can't imagine anyone liking me other than as friends(maybe cause I haven't been in a relationship? I dunno)
Also my country is pretty darn sexualized (I mean like in a poll put as "one of the most sexually satisfied country" and some of the news that I've read here seem to lean really into Acephobic Dx ) (and all relationships are so into sex, like all my friends are so into it and just chatter about "How it's normal and needed and etc" -.- ) So hard it's hard. But thankfully the Health Education at least mentions aces and school wide pool had ace as an opinion =w=
Tester-of-Tales Featured By Owner Oct 16, 2015  Student General Artist
//This.// It's really, really irritating, hearing this.
Mustacio2000 Featured By Owner Jun 27, 2015  Student Traditional Artist
My life.😽
ThePuttySCULPTOR Featured By Owner May 2, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
What makes matters more complicated is that a person's orientation is not always easy to define, and subject to innumerable emotional and psychological factors that defy rigid catagorization. Things aren't always black and white.
Icefeather31 Featured By Owner Edited Apr 10, 2015  Student General Artist
I know what you mean, I face palmed when a girl said she was asexual, yet complained how hot guys never payed attention to her and how she wanted a guy to ask her out. It seems like people just don't know the meanings of words now. It's sorta sad though, since most things starting with "a" can mean "non", meaning "non-sexual".
Pompo-chan Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
tbh this is exactly what happened when i told my dad i was asexual
UltimateFangirl1234 Featured By Owner Mar 16, 2015
I agree with this wholeheartedly.
DarienOppal Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
=n= Some people I know are like this too, they know I'm asexual and I think they do it just began to makes me annoyed...
CinnamonPig Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
It's annoying how often I get this!
meperson94 Featured By Owner Dec 19, 2014
I'm an asexual, had a friend who was pan-sexual. She would always say stuff like this to me.
100Cat Featured By Owner Oct 6, 2014
OMC This happens to me all the time!!! It's so... crazy! If I could fall in love, I might already have, but I've never been nor will I ever. 
ML3mae Featured By Owner Oct 4, 2014
A lot of people think Bi is just an excuse too. Like if they date same-sex "they were really in the closet that whole time." And if they date opposite sex "they were just going through a phase." Like you said, it's mostly because people don't understand it and are too stubborn or lazy to try.

I remember when I didn't understand Transexuals. My friend was trying to explain them to me. Oh god, I am so sorry to every last one of them.
Me: "So, they're people who can't afford a sex-change?"
Friend: "Well, sometimes yeah, but that's not the point!"

And, dude, I grew up with insanely religious parents and the first thing I ever said online was bashing people for shipping Roxas and Axel. I used 'gay' as an insult and went over how they can't possibly be more then friends. I sincerely apologize if anyone ever read that, I can't find the form again but Axel is obviously in love with Roxas.

At least I learned, though, and was completely open-minded in the end. Some people, though, I feel sorry for them sometimes.
skytiger859 Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
A friend of mine thought I was asexual for a while. I actually just hit puberty pretty late. When it finally ended and I showed interest in the opposite sex, I think she was the happiest person around.
MoonShadow777 Featured By Owner Aug 19, 2014  Student General Artist

I was everyone's object for gossip because they all wanted to put me in a romantic relationship, but they don't understand that I don't like people that way!
I want to be best friends with everyone! Not start eating someone's face! (which is what everyone else wishes upon me...) No, I disagree!
I'm in that 1%... for sure. I really can't imagine myself ever wanting to date.
TheTinfoilRat Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
"Not start eating someone's face!"  I love this description of kissing. XD
rumpg46691 Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014
I like find this kinda funny xD
SaleneRose Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
I can relate to the description so well XD I'm pansexual and whenever I tell someone I usually get one of three things:

1. Well, which one do you like better? Boys or girls?

2. Isn't that just bisexual? 

3. You have sex with cooking pans? 

People need to broaden their horizons a little...
Avvoula Featured By Owner Aug 27, 2014
Sex with cooking pans XD
Damn, I can't stop laughing :'D
CarrieSkylar Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2014
Oh my...XD
Phoenix-Skywriter Featured By Owner Jul 12, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I'm ace, and my boyfriend's a disinterested pan, so yes. c:
asexualdragonlady Featured By Owner Edited Jul 9, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
MenollySagittaria : This is true. While some will engage in intercourse, it's not fulfilling to them as it is to the partner. It's a function of being human. There are other Aces, like myself who would prefer not to have sex at all and are open to having an open relationship to allow the partner to satisfy the natural urges with another if he/she so chooses.

Sexual orientation does not mean wanting sex. It simply means attraction on a physical and emotional level. Sex drive is a biological tool that many take for granted now and is often misinterpreted to be tied directly to an orientation, though it is not.
Ada-Erika Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2015
also not meant to be offensive Dx just saying if it does.

Having an open relationship is great. Lot of trust involved especially if only the other one is having sex. And if it works perfectly for some then it's great! But I must admit/say that humans being sexual creatures they usually get easily attached to ppl they have sex with (just endorphines etc basic biology) which makes it a bit harder than a normal relationship. (but not any way harder/worse than a normal realtionship =w= )
MenollySagittaria Featured By Owner Jun 26, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
"how big is the chance to find a partner who will tolerate this"

Asexuals can and do have sex as compromise if they want a relationship.

But given the average person's inability to comprehend the concept of not being sexually attracted to anyone, they're likely to even further misinterpret an asexual actually *having sex . . .

And with the internet, finding another asexual is just a click away. (and later planning and moving, but hey)
novernil Featured By Owner Jun 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
There really does seem to be this big disconnect when you try to explain asexuality to people. Straight people simply don't/can't/won't get it, and gay people seem to be afraid it's catching. T.T

I told my mother I had absolutely no interest in getting involved with anyone sexually (or even romantically) and her sage advice was the same as in the comic: I haven't met the right guy yet.
Silver-Song-Shifter Featured By Owner May 25, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
I have a pan-sexual friend, a transgender friend, an asexual friend, a lesbian friend, and a gay friend.
I respect all of them and even joke around about their sexuality as they do about me being strait sometimes.
I even make jokes about what would happen if I were a lesbian.
I don't see why people don't get the idea of asexuality
Spectrumelf Featured By Owner May 12, 2014  Professional Filmographer
Haha! Luv this. Some people just can't comprehend the fact that maybe you don't want a relationship. (I like the color style, btw!)

When I talk to my friends about being single for life they can't help but give me a list of numbers and percentages of people who are single because they WANT to be and I'm just sittin' there like... "...GUYS...Maybe I AM in that 2%...."  9___9
CrystalStarArtNight Featured By Owner Jul 6, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
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SquallAce Featured By Owner Apr 24, 2014
Can I ask something? Maybe i'm being a jackass, but I really do feel like this needs to be asked.

The friends that this character represents, have you told them what Asexual means? I mean actually and expressly TOLD them what it MEANS.
Because otherwise I fail see how calling them 'stupid' is justified when all you're doing (from their perspective) is throwing this word at them...

I have no issue with any sexuality, but if this comic is an accurate telling of how conversations with your friends go, then, to be perfectly honest, this just comes off as you demonising them fro being nice and not knowing any better.

The person who I consider my best friend is Transexual, and he told me (and his other friends) what it means as soon as he told them that he was Transexual, and that has meant that we don't ask stupid questions.

If you have told them, that's fine, you are in the right and I apologise for being accusing
If you haven't, then why the hell not, and how the hell is it their fault that they don't know what you're talking about?

Sorry if I came off as rude, and I'm sorry that people are so ignorant and unaccepting of anything that they consider 'out of the ordinary', but then I'm also sorry that people are often made out like they are homophobic, transphobic, aphobic simply because of not knowing any bettter and when, strictly speaking, haven't done anything wrong
Blhj Featured By Owner Mar 24, 2014
I'm straight but I have hardly ever been in a relationship. And my parents stress so much over it! I mean, I wouldn't even be stressed the least if it wasn't for them (and my friends). My parents have asked me countless times if I'm gay and reassure me that it's okay with them if I am! One of these days I'm seriously just gonna say yes, and then they will be real surprised when I get a boyfriend in the future! ;D
My friends think I'm weird too, but I feel so "normal"! I don't feel like anything is wrong with me at all and I have a great life!
Shay-chan33 Featured By Owner Mar 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Enthriex Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Lol this is so true... something we all go through apparently XD
LilaBlack Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Urgh... -_- Poor Nell..xD
stars-rain Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
lolLlama-Emoji-01 (Laughing)  my situation:D (Big Grin) 
SourKiss Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
moonofwitch Featured By Owner Sep 30, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I know this from some of my own friends, i'm pansexual in a asexual way if i have to describe what my sexuality is.
ynne-black Featured By Owner Aug 16, 2013  Student General Artist
Well, a lot of people still don't even accept the fact some people are bisexual. It's gay or straight, nothing between for them. And some still believe being gay is a choice and it can change with time, or with good partner. I mean... wtf.
Phidifidy Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
yeah i am so sick of people who forget about asexuality and pansexuality like seriously, they are there, and they both DO exist, they arent just the person's figment of imagination, nor is pansexuality the same as bisexuality. 
Pugmoon152 Featured By Owner Jul 1, 2013  Student General Artist
I've had this happen to me a lot. :(
420weedlord420 Featured By Owner Jun 26, 2013
I totally agree ;v;
UmBoo616 Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I actually am asexual =) Sex to me is just... ugh. gross. I am romantic. I just dont really like the idea of sex. just seems meaningless to me. The only good that comes from it is reproducin so the human race doesn't die out & now adays, I think it should all be limited. I mean, the 16 year olds gettin prego, some people can't afford bein a parent, some aren't responsible enough to be parents, & some are abusive. >x<
CurlyCreeper Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2013  Student Digital Artist
I feel exactly the same as you. Also the world is over populating. If i wanted kids i will just adopt. :)
UmBoo616 Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
haha thank you for agreein =) That's true, it is over populated. That's exactly what I tell my mum and dad!! But they never seem to believe me when I say that I never really wanna have any kids of my own. The process to make the child is to tedious & overdone as well as just..... bleh.
Death-the-Girl888 Featured By Owner Jun 12, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
That Liz girl looks a bit like Patty xD
27FreeGal Featured By Owner Jun 10, 2013
I know situations like this...
Nice work! :)
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